New Year Resolution For Young Moms In India

New Year Resolutions For Young Mom

Everyday life as a mom and a wife can be demanding. While we have stepped into the New Year, many of us have chalked out a New Year resolution to be followed. While most of our resolutions seem unattainable after a certain time, little steps towards setting New Year goals for mom can be worth planning. You be a new mom or have gathered experience of a few springs, there is something new that comes up every now and then. To make things better and easy it is good to plan something which can be easily followed. After all, a healthy and happy mom is the key to happiness for her child and family.

As mothers, we are always ready to attain our children and family and we seldom take care of ourselves. Here is a list of 10 New Year resolutions for new moms which will add value to their life and more importantly, can be practiced in daily life. Every point you follow, you make sure to keep you content along with raising your child in a right way as a mother is the first teacher of every child.

  1. Patience is the key : It is not applicable that as a mother you will never leave patience. However, in my case, I have experienced that the more I stretch myself beyond limits, the more I become impatient. Therefore, it is really important to draw the line between achievable and unachievable. It’s ok to even fail to do something as a mother. Some things are beyond our control and there is no shame in accepting it. While we practice patience, our children learn the same at a very early age as the best teaching one can give to their child is by practicing the same by themselves.
  2. Rejuvenate yourself : We often forget to pamper ourselves. Be it spending some quiet time alone or catching up with friends. It is indeed important to take up a hobby or anything you like, to keep you happy, as your happiness is the key to your child’s happiness.
  3. Teach your child to speak up : When I was young, I was shy of saying ‘no’. However, as a mother, I understand the importance of saying no to things. Talk to your child and inculcate the habit of saying no to things which she is not comfortable with. While a child practices this from her early childhood, it becomes a constant practice that helps her in many ways for her entire life.
  4. Spend more time with family : This can be the most common thing you read today. Everyone is up to suggesting to spend more time with family than gadgets. Well, the secret lies in how to do it? With a few simple habits, you can overpower the use of gadgets and dedicate more time to your family. For example, do not wake up in the morning with an alarm, rater set your favorite song as your wakeup call in the morning. After a week your body clock will be self-trained and you would not need any alarm to wake up. Secondly, make time to talk more than to watch a movie. Play with your child and let her share her dreams and thoughts through interactions.
  5. Adequate sleep is a must : A healthy body is a must to attain a healthy mind. As a mother after a day’s work, I would enjoy my time during bedtime when others are asleep. But that actually retreated my health. As a mother it demands a lot mentally and physically, therefore, adequate sleep during the night is a must. It’s rewarding to wake up early in the morning and enjoy the silence and the warmth of the morning.
  6. Learn to leave work at the office : For working mommies, it is essential to leave work back at the office. It may happen that there is a very important meeting at your office the next day, but that should not happen quite often. However, for mothers who work from home, this can be rather challenging. I belong to the latter category and experiment with a different work schedule that matches my child’s comfort. Now when my child goes to school for 2 to 3 hours, I can dedicate the same to my profession.
  7. Plan your finances : As you become a mother, finance takes a charge upon you. We think about securing our child’s future and other related expenditures. What you can start with, is plan your finances. Save for a trip or for a planned expense like buying tickets for your child’s amusement extravaganza, schooling, etc. This is the best time to invest in savings and other financial planning. In this way, you can share your husband’s financial burden and become a responsible wife.
  8. Count healthy living for the family : Everything falls into its place when the health of your family is restored. Exercise brief healthy habits such as, schedule health check for the family, morning exercise routine, eat home-cooked food, sleep on time, and such little things which you think works better for you.
  9. Make sweet memories over time : Spending quality time with your family will help you make memories for life. While we spend time with each other, we never know what makes a long-lasting memory. Therefore, it is necessary to make every moment count. Spend uninterrupted time with your family and laugh together over watching TV, going out for a short trip, or even chit-chatting with one another. In this way, not only you but your child will also make memories for life.
  10. Express yourself more often : When we love someone we want to walk along carved roads for them, but at times it becomes tiresome. It is not an offense to express yourself more often, rather your partner will appreciate your gesture. Ask for help when you need it, even don’t forget to express your feelings towards your child and partner. Saying ‘I love you’ can do wonders for your life.

Well, every New Year goals for mom can be different. Plan out your practical resolutions which can be easily executed in daily life. The points which we have discussed above not only soothes us but adds value to a child and a partner as well. Therefore, when a family grows together, they form an eternal bond and hence, stay happy even during rough rides. With the course of time make memories with your children and partner, as this time will never come back to your life again.

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5 Reasons Why Millennial Moms Deserve a Pat on Their Back

If you are reading this blog you are probably an expectant mother, a single one or maybe just someone whose friend is a yummy mummy. The zeitgeist of the millennial spirit may seem compellingly stereotypical however it rings very true of the generation’s mothers.

Fiercely loyal to affording nothing but the best to their loved ones, financially sound or work in progress towards building a safety net for themselves and their loved ones, multi-tasking geniuses, and the ability to wipe their tears off  themselves in case of lack of a reliable support system.

Inadvertent setbacks both major and minor may rattle her up for a bit, however, vodka shot and a bawling episode with her best friend later she is sorted enough to hit some sixes and boundaries. Grab a coffee and lend an ear to a mom who has been through some serious shit in life and yet sits their gracefully running a hand through her babies’ wisps of blond hair affectionately.

Many heartwarming repertoires and incidences of the epiphanies of motherhood will surely emerge. So what is it exactly that sets apart the moms born between 1978 and 1994 from those of the earlier generations? Is it their ability to garner a resounding applause juggling work, family and the pressures of raising a child? Or is it the equal involvement of a hands-on daddy? Ladies and gentlemen, it is a different ball game altogether with the cost of raising a child has gone up an astounding 18% in the current era from a mere 2% in 1960! If you are a millennial mom or know someone who is rocking the show with aplomb go pat yourself or her on the back because she is a/an,

  1. A Multi-tasker who knows her priorities

This woman can deal with rhetorical drama surrounding her work or familial pressures which in the Indian scenario runs the risk of multiplying manifold owing to the continued existence of joint family setups. Because in the heart of hearts she knows she is doing fine when her little one wraps his tiny fist around her little finger and looks at her with unadulterated love and adoration.

  1. A Woman with nerves of steel and a heart of gold

Parenting a newborn is no piece of cake for a first-time mother; imagine having one with special needs… Your child carries a piece of your heart long after he/she has grown and flown the nest. Manju Rawat a Business Analyst settled in Hong Kong and raising a child with special needs, says, “It takes an immense amount of courage not to give up on your child when their pace of learning and development is not in sync with those of a similar age group and to give them the space to fall, learn and grow at their own chartered pace. Ultimately, it is not a race, each life is a life lived well if nurtured with love & compassion.” She signs off.

  1. A Financial pillar of strength for self and family

Gone are the days when a single income could suffice for families of four, people barely manage to make ends meet even in double-income families nowadays. With the average age of first-time motherhood witnessing steady rise for decades (from 22.7 in 1980 to 26 years in 2013, according to Centers for Disease Control), education levels have witnessed a proportional rise resulting in a culmination of highly skilled, well-paying jobs.

  1. A Partner to an equally involved father

The role of hands-on millennial father cannot be overlooked in each and every aspect of child-rearing. Whether it is changing diapers, bathing the little one, to feeding and burping them, the new age dads are well aware of their responsibilities and are willing to share the load. 

  1. An Emotionally intelligent woman

who may occasionally lose her marbles in the whole process of raising her munchkin, yet gets back in the game even if it is about being thrown back to square one.

 Aditi Korde, a banker who is an embodiment of a millennial mom, sums it up poignantly, “From bringing a life into this world to watching them develop their own identities, from surviving bouts of morning sickness to meeting deadlines at work, from looking flawless to sporting those scars, she does it all with élan & panache…”

Pic Credits: Mommy Jahanvi & son Arjun

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Why It Is Important to Get Rid of What Doesn’t Fit?

Are you stuck with the idea of achieving your goal body weight and have all sorts of possible imaginations of wearing your favourite outfit once you’re at it?

Does your wardrobe feels so full of clothes but you don’t wear plenty of them simply because they don’t feel so ‘you’ anymore?

Or is it that you wear a certain set of clothes only because you were too hasty in buying them and now it’s just too difficult to let go?

Is it true that you judge your body every once in a while, because that expensive pair of jeans you bought some time ago don’t fit you anymore?

If all these questions seem familiar and ring a bell for you, then darling it’s time for you to bring about a major change. Because it isn’t actually a bell, it’s an alarm dear; an alarm for you to wake up and act.

I have seen people clinging on to certain clothing items for years simply because they feel too attached with them or because they feel they’re just too expensive to let go off that easily. And in all this, they subject their mind to pressure and body to judgement every single day without even realizing. They deprive themselves of the happiness of slipping in a completely fit outfit that complements every curve of their body. They deprive themselves of the satisfaction they’ll get once they learn to embrace their body as it is.

So let me tell you, as difficult as it sounds, it’s still best to let go of clothes that are too small or don’t fit you anymore. Let’s look at some reasons to get rid of clothes in 2020.

You will ooze out more confidence and positivity

Now imagine yourself standing in front of the mirror looking at your thinner or curvier self, but in perfectly fitted clothes. Don’t you think your day will go by pretty well in that case? Ill-fitted clothes only take away your confidence. Then why pile them up in your closet? Loose clothes will make you look sluggish and lazy while clothes that are too tight will make you uncomfortable.

You will stop judging your own body

The worst thing a person can do is judge their own self. If you don’t get rid of ill-fitted clothes from your wardrobe, you will question yourself for not being able to achieve your ideal body weight each day. So rather than motivating you towards your goal, it will make you unhappy and unsatisfied with yourself each morning. And this is something no one would want to do to themselves. It is definitely great to have a goal and working hard towards achieving it.  But what’s not great is living in a bubble or pressurising yourself. Give yourself some time and invest in proper clothes once you achieve your goal.

It will make you feel lighter and better

Believe it or not! Letting go of things that you don’t essentially need doesn’t only declutter your space but also your mind. And clothes are just the starting point for this exercise. The process might be too draining or upsetting for you but once it’s done you’ll feel unburdened altogether. Just start small and you’ll see. And trust me; you’ll love the person that you will be once you’ll sail through it.

You can live in present whilst also working on your goals

Clinging on to a piece of clothing only because you’ll fit in it one day will stop you from focussing on your present self. As much as it is great to keep yourself healthy and working everyday to achieve your goals, it is important to also love your present self at the same time. You might want to lose or gain those 10 kgs but that doesn’t mean what you are right now is not worth loving. So if you let go of the clothes that don’t fit right now, you’ll embrace yourself and your progress every day. You can definitely renew your wardrobe later but give yourself enough time.

You can invest in clothes that actually fit and make you look a lot better with whatever size you are

Once you let go off clothes that don’t fit you, you can go out and buy clothes that actually complements every bit of your present self.

You will make better shopping decisions in future

Now in order to buy new clothes, this time you’ll be smarter. Once you let go of all that clutter, you’ll also realize that you bought certain clothes that you never really needed or wore. You’ll understand your needs and your current style and will only buy clothes that suit the new you without being frivolous in your decisions.

You can be more organized

Letting go of clothes that don’t fit is directly linked with decluttering unnecessary stuff which is also directly linked with organization. Once your closet feels less cluttered and spacious, you can think of ways to organize it in a better fashion than before when all your stuff seemed out of order and got messed up every third day after you did the cleaning.

You can help someone

Who said you have to throw away the clothes you don’t need anymore? Just categorise them and give it away to someone in need you find around. Or just go out and donate. The clothes that served little or no purpose in your wardrobe will be of good use to someone else and might actually be worn with contentment. What’s better than that— isn’t it?

So, you get the point, right? Getting rid of clothes that don’t fit is not just needful—it’s essential. It’s not just an activity—it’s an exercise. It might not seem like a big thing, but believe me, it’s so rewarding.

You change every day, every week, every month and definitely every year. You grow. Let your wardrobe grow too—not in terms of quantity, but quality. Buy new things, better things that suit you. But at the same time, let go of what is not needed anymore. Maintain the balance; practice it and you’ll never look back.

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