Some Powerful Ways To Help You Fall In Love With Yourself Again

Loving yourself will help you to gain a deep appreciation of your own self – who you are, your strengths, weaknesses everything. It’ll also help you like your own company enabling you to spend some time alone. Loving yourself is just the same as in a relationship, we have to fight to keep the bond strong and the connection should be healthy and thriving. Falling in love with yourself will help you to do some of the following things:

    • Instead of waiting for others, you can do things by yourself
    • You can give yourself what you want emotionally
    • You can work on yourself
    • You’ll get the confidence to do whatever you want
    • If you make a mistake, you’ll be gentle with yourself instead of putting yourself down.

If you aren’t exactly fond of who you are right now, here are some tips and tricks for kicking back to your relationship.

Talk to yourself

Talking to yourself is actually healthy and helps you think better. Converse with yourself in a sweet and appreciative tone. Also, it’s so nice to have a soft-spoken person inside you. The most important thing is that the language you speak to yourself or the things you say to yourself. Make sure you say positive and upliftings things to yourself.

Make a list of accomplishments

Everyone should try to keep a running list of their accomplishments. This has various benefits which include the following:

    • It will help to remind you of how much you’ve earned and accomplished.
    • It will help you to feel admiration and pride for yourself.
    • Feeling good about yourself will make you love yourself more.

Treat yourself better

Everyone loves to receive gifts like on their birthday. Treat yourself to the good things that you would definitely get for people you love. Buy yourself all the things that will make you happy. A good meal, your favourite drink, the dress you always wanted to purchase – make yourself have happy in the ways you wanted.

Make a routine for yourself

Figure out when your productivity is maximum and work a schedule around that. if you are not able to keep yourself grounded in a lifestyle that facilitates growth, then you will have a hard time keeping yourself stable. Don’t let your thoughts become repetitive and lazy. Try to read something challenging to make your way of thinking differently and give something interesting to your mind to think over.

Overcome your own weakness and fear

Pick a fear that you have been harboring for too long and find a way to face it and overcome it. Then you will gain a great sense of self-respect for overcoming your worst fear of all.

Learn something new

Remember something that you wanted to learn earlier? Try to reignite your passion for it and learn about it as much as you want. It’s not too late to learn new things. 

Check-in with yourself

Try to keep a diary or a journal of your daily activities and your thoughts. Always check it once a week to evaluate your progress that you are making towards your goal and correct the mistakes and keep in touch with your overall sense of well being.

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Early Warning Signs Of Postpartum Depression

If you’ve made it a habit to read the newspaper in the morning, we’re sure you’ve come across the news of a 27-year old mother in Nashik who slit the throat of her 14-month old baby girl because she was fed up with the baby’s cranky behaviour. While it is unfathomable for a mother to kill her baby, it is suspected that the mother was suffering from postpartum depression (PPD).
The cases of postpartum depression are becoming increasingly common. For the uninitiated, postpartum depression is linked to the chemical, social, psychological and physical changes that happen with having a baby. This happens because of the rapid drop in hormones after giving birth.

The levels of estrogen and progesterone increase multifold during the pregnancy and the fall sharply after the delivery. They’re back to the normal level by the third day after giving birth making it difficult for the new mother. The good news is that with the right medication and counselling, PPD can be treated.

The difficult part of it, however, is to successfully recognize the signs of depression timely and make yourself or your partner the treatment they need!

Here are 7 warning signs of post-partum depression you need to look out for:

1. Your ‘Baby Blues’ Do Not Go Away

It is common for mothers to experience ‘baby blues’ or a dip in their mood for the first few weeks after giving birth. But this feeling is supposed to dissipate within a few days. However, if you’re still feeling sad, low or hopeless even weeks later, or you feel the ‘baby blues’ are only getting more intense, it is time you paid a visit to the doctor.

2. You’ve Lost Interest In Your Hobbies

Remember that one movie that was an instant pick-me-up for you? Or how eating a certain food was guaranteed to put you in a better mood? If you find yourself withdrawing into yourself and losing interest in things you once loved to do, it could be a huge red flag. Another thing to be mindful of is your interaction with your partner. Do you like cuddling up with him now? Are you interested in expressing affection to each other? Take note of all these things.

3. You’re Constantly Guilty

Being a new mum comes with its ups and downs. You feel like you’ve taken on too much and ask yourself if you’ll be good enough every once in a while. But if you find yourself crying uncontrollably at all hours, feeling unhappy about being a mom or constantly feeling like a failure, it is a sign, and a crucial one, of PPD.

4. You Have Unpredictable Sleep Patterns

Nobody expects you to have the sleep pattern you had before the baby, that’s unrealistic. You will be up at odd hours taking care of it but if you can’t even rest when the baby is napping or you find yourself sleeping at all times, you might be depressed.

5. Decision Making Is Now A Task

Do you constantly feel too tired to think straight and make a decision? Or you feel like you just don’t care about anything. It could be as small as taking a shower or changing the diaper to anything bigger, but you just can’t decide what you want to do is a red flag you must take note of!

6. You’ve Just Gone Through Something Stressful

Is your partner supportive and helping you with the responsibilities? How has your family extended support during this time? The stress of taking care of a baby alone can be too much to deal with. Sometimes, this also triggers PPD.

7. You’ve Thought About Hurting Yourself Or The Baby

In some extreme cases, or in postpartum psychosis – a serious mental illness that happens due to postpartum depression, the mother feels so exhausted and tired of everything that she contemplates harming herself or the baby. If you feel your partner is considering hurting herself, or if you get to a point where you want to just end it all, seek help immediately and without delay.

Postpartum depression is a reality that almost 1 in every 8 women deal with. Getting help is absolutely necessary for it. Do not ignore these warning signs. After all, a happy mom makes a happy baby.

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Realistic Steps For Busy Moms To Make Self-Care A Priority

As mothers, we always put ourselves last. The society has pressured us into becoming ‘Super Moms’, women whose needs come after everyone else’s, and that keeps us on our toes all the time. However, a little bit self-care can help us a lot in the long run. Simply put, when we, busy moms, take care of ourselves first, we are able to bring our strongest, healthiest, most energized self to the table and take care of others better.

Here are a few things you can do to get some time for self-care.

Read on to find out what they are!

Time Management

Every mom should devote some time just for herself. During this time, moms can set their goals and create their to-do lists. This is an important step in managing time. With good management of time, moms can accomplish more in less time. This would help in decreasing the level of stress as well as improve focus. 

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Try Breathing Exercises & Meditation

Take one deep abdominal breath. Fill up your lungs to their maximum capacity, hold for three seconds and let it all out. That immediately feels better, doesn’t it? You can also meditate and take out time to pray to reduce stress and help the body relax. Going outside in the morning and getting some fresh air relaxes mind and body and can work wonders when it comes to self-care. Following relaxation techniques make you feel calmer and healthier throughout the week.

Also, if you can, do a little yoga in the morning, to relax and rejuvenate. Basic asanas like Anulom-Vilom , Surya Namaskar and Pranayam help a lot. 

Book A Massage

No one is going to tell you that you need a vacation, break or even a spa day. So make sure you treat yourself with massage, whether it’s at home or at the salon. Book one for yourself from Urban Clap and after an hour’s session, you’ll be in bliss, ready to take on the world.

Serve Yourself First

Constantly worrying about household chores as well as managing work can leave working moms exhausted and drained. Add to that endless sleepless nights and you’ve got yourself a mom who is completely burnt out. It’s important to get real with yourself about what you want from life and ensure you are taking little steps towards that. Serving yourself first isn’t a crime. Remind yourself that self-care is not selfish.

Besides things like, eating a balanced diet on time, drinking enough water and working out makes a huge difference too. 

Share Responsibilities

It is a real challenge that all moms face in today’s time. While you may be tempted to do everything yourself, you must share their workload with their husbands as well as with family members. You should, under no circumstance, ignore yourself or refuse to take a break. If, as a working mom, you are taking time to think about yourself, it will definitely boost your self-confidence. When you get back from the break, you’ll be sure of your abilities too. So step away from the Internet for some time and enjoy with your own company.

Go For A Walk

Morning walk is the best exercise for the mind and body, especially for working moms. Whenever you get a chance, put your baby in a stroller and go out for a walk. It’ll be good for both of you. Join Zumba to burn calories, to boost your heart health as well as get back into shape, if that’s what you wish to do.

Don’t Take On Other People’s Responsibilities

Refuse to take other people’s responsibilities. You already have enough on your plate without having to add more. Use non-verbal communication or even a simple ‘no’ to let the other person know it’s beyond your capacity. Let other people complete their work load themselves.

Sonya Friedman has rightly said “The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.”

Share with us your idea of self-care as a busy mommy. You can email us on criesandcrawls@gmail.com 

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